Sending out cards, invitations & other pieces of mail to couples you know is standard as you prepare to get married or approach the holiday season. While greetings such as "Mr. & Mrs." & "Mr. & Ms." are fine for lots of couples, they are not appropriate when addressing a lesbian couple. While there is no "right" way to address a lesbian couple, doing so in the proper manner ensures you don't accidentally insult the ladies you are addressing.

What to do

• Learn if the couple is actually married. If the couple is married, it is feasible the now share the same last name.

• Select a level of formality. This determines if an honorific is used when addressing the lesbian couple.

• Use "Ms." for more formal instances. When "Ms." is used, place name on top of the other on the envelope or card in lieu of side by side. For example,

Ms. Jodi Parker

Ms. Jo Anne Parker.

• Write the name of the woman you know better, such as a relative, ahead of the other woman in the couple. Writing the names alphabetically is fine in case you have an equal relationship with both partners. (For example Jodi Parker & Jo Anne Parker).

• Write the names side by side in case you don't use "Ms." (For example Jodi Parker & Jo Anne Parker).

Learning this simple things may instill especially to your lesbian friends how you are careful about not hurting or making them feel uncomfortable.

The level of understanding or comfort we give to lesbian couples is not only by the time the two decided to be unified but also it extends all through their lifetime. The same goes through when you are invited to a gay wedding Hawaii event.

Some guests may find attending to a gay wedding if not a lesbian wedding uncomfortable especially in how they are going to address their dress mode during the event may be able to get something out of reading this post.

One thing is set clear though is that this is just the same wedding as any regular couple you had attended and you shouldn't fuss much about what to wear. But if this does not make you feel good then try out these simple suggestions or guidelines.

General Tips
In cases that you are not sure of what to wear aside from hearing what you get to wear from the couple himself you may also be informed about this especially if the couple has a themed wedding in their invitation cards sent out to the guests, which means to you. Even if your lesbian friend asks you to wear jeans, a tie and all you will definitely have a shout out of it from them.

The main point of attending the wedding though is to enjoy it like how your lesbian friends want you to do for them. There are some things you needed to bear in mind though: try to match the design of what you will be wearing to some other guests, do not upstage the couples wedding, it is best not to wear short short dress, choose some pastel colors if not some basic prints, keep your make up to its minimum amount you don't want to look like a clown don't you? In the long run with this in mind always remember to wear something you are comfortable with even if you follow what the couples desire.

Outdoor or Casual Weddings
If a wedding is done on a casual style or in the outdoors you are expected to wear something of a low-key style. Gentlemen may try to wear a suit for summer wedding a seer sucker is best to go for. To make your look more interesting you can accessorize it with some funky shoes, plaid pants with a jacket. For young generation it will be a different approach than the older ones. Women may wear a summer dress adorn with heels if not sandals. Color black is not the best option though if the wedding is held in the afternoon, why not work on cream or beige colors and then do some accessory with a black suit if not a light colored dress shirt.

Formal Weddings
If you are attending a formal type of a lesbian wedding be do some revisions of using summer casual attire. Women are understood to be mostly wearing some dress as how tuxedos and pantsuits are expected. Women who wears cocktail dress should bear in mind not to overly show off some cleavage if possible. Do not be too elegant or wear something outrageous to the extent of making this day an uncomfortable event for the couple. Always wear comfy shoes that whatever you do with it, it won't be a bother.

Whether it is for a lesbian wedding or a gay wedding Hawaii celebration same thing applies on how you get to dress properly.